The holiday season can often bring up Norman Rockwell images in our minds of what the “perfect holiday” season should look like. This can often leave us feeling frustrated, disappointed, or sad if our holiday doesn’t match the images in our minds.

What could you do to make your holiday experience this year more fun, easy and relaxing? Really think outside of the box and let your imagination run. What could you do to make your holiday celebration more enjoyable? You might hear a little voice in your head say, “Well I couldn’t do THAT!” Really? Why not? What would be the worse thing that could happen if you did? Would someone criticize you? Are you worried that someone would be disappointed?

I had client recently who came into my office very upset. She was trying to decide whether to go home to Montana to see her parents (which felt uncomfortable) or to stay home and celebrate the holidays with her daughter in their own way. At first neither option sounded good. She worried about feeling guilty if she didn’t go to see her parents. At the same time, she believed that she might be uncomfortable and/or resentful about being dragged around to parties she didn’t feel like attending if she did go. She finally decided that she would stay home for Christmas and then go to see her parents for a few days after Christmas. She left my office feeling relieved at finding a solution that felt good.

For Thanksgiving this year I made a decision that was very “out of the box” from what I normally do. I was invited to go to New England to spend Thanksgiving with my cousins from my mother’s side of the family. This didn’t feel like a good idea because I already had plans to fly to New England for Christmas. Another option was that I could go to see my cousins who live about 1 ½ hours from me, but this didn’t feel quite like what I wanted to do either. I decided that what I really wanted to do was to have a Thanksgiving potluck at my house and invite friends over to join me. This is what I did and it was a lot of fun and a huge success.

What would make the holidays a little more relaxing and fun for you this year? Would it be to NOT work for 2 days straight cooking in the kitchen so that you are so tired you can’t even enjoy the food when it is time for the big meal? Would asking for help with the holiday shopping make things easier? How about scheduling more quite time for yourself? Dare to think outside of the box. A few new choices can increase your sense of well-being and make your holiday season more pleasant and enjoyable.

Deborah Barnett, Ph.D.

www.ManifestingWellBeing.com

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