I nearly jumped as she gently pressed into the arch of my foot. “Ouch, that’s so tender!” I exclaimed. This was my experience during a Jin Shin Jitsu bodywork session that I received from a friend this evening. My friend looked at me kindly and said, “That point on your foot that is about balance.” Jin Shin Jitsu is a Japanese form of acupressure. Different points on the body correspond to various physical and emotional aspects of ourselves.* I knew from past sessions that when a point is tender, it is an indication that more attention is needed to the area in one’s life that the particular point represents. I was aware that I had been doing a lot recently and not taking enough self-care time. Based on the extreme tenderness of that point on my foot, my body confirmed this!

I often ask my clients about how much self-care they are practicing in their lives. Often I am met with an eye-roll or blank look. I then explain that self-care is not selfish, it is essential. If you are a person who tends to give, and give and give to others, and you run around fulfilling a lot of responsibilities during your day, sometimes self-care can be put on the “back burner” or neglected all together. The analogy I use is one of a well. If you are a “well” and people around you are taking, taking, taking, all the time, and you do not replenish yourself and thus give yourself time and fill back up, eventually you will run dry. This is sometimes referred to as “care-giver burnout.”

The holidays can be an especially difficult time to remember to take time for self-care. It is easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle and forget to take time to replenish oneself. When this happens the holidays are stressful and the fun and joy disappears. Why not make this holiday season different? Take some time to schedule in some self-care time. This might be taking time to get a bodywork session, or going for a peaceful walk, taking a bath, curling up with a good book, or going to lunch with a friend. A little bit of self-care can do wonders. It will refresh you and in doing so refill your “well.” Self-care is a gift that you can give to yourself this holiday season and it can help the holidays be more joyful instead of stressful.

*For more information about Jin Shin Jitsu, I recommend Pat Gallager’s blog. It is very informative: http://blog.patagallagher.com/

Deborah Barnett, Ph.D.

www.ManifestingWellBeing.com

Manifesting Well Being for Health and Success